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I guess someone has asked you today or recently “how’re you?” And you responded with “I’m fine”. It is one of the most common phrases people use, even when it is not true. Many of us have learned either through childhood experiences, cultural expectations, or difficult life situations that showing emotions is something to avoid. We tell ourselves to stay strong, keep moving, and deal with our feelings later. Over time, hiding emotions can become second nature. While suppressing emotions can become a habit, it often comes at a cost. Emotions don't simply disappear because we ignore them. What we push down often stays with us, affecting our mental health, relationships, and even our physical wellbeing. Research suggests that regularly suppressing emotions can increase stress, contribute to anxiety and depression, and make it harder to build meaningful connections with others.

There is a quiet crisis many young adults are going through right now. Not everyone talks about it openly because, from the outside, life can still look “fine.” People are working, posting online, hanging out with friends, replying to emails, trying to stay productive. But underneath all of that, many are carrying confusion, uncertainty, emotional exhaustion, and a constant fear that they are somehow falling behind in life. It is the feeling that something is off, even when you cannot fully explain why. You feel it while going to work, at 2 am when your mind refuses to rest. You feel it while watching everyone else seem certain about their lives while you quietly question your own. This experience is commonly referred to as a quarter-life crisis.

Taking care of your mental health doesn’t always have to look like a complete life reset. Sometimes, it’s the small things. The quiet habits. The little moments where you choose yourself, even briefly. A lot of people are exhausted right now. Trying to survive, stay productive, figure life out, and still hold themselves together emotionally. In the middle of all that, mental health can easily become something we only think about when things get really bad. But caring for your mind should not only happen during breakdowns.

Sometimes, saying “I’m not okay” feels harder than it should. Not because the words don’t exist, but because they don’t fully capture what’s going on inside. In moments like this, many people turn to art as a way to express what they can’t say directly.

In this interview, we speak with Janet Oluwajuwonlo Adeoye, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Applied Behaviour Analysis Technician, and advocate for children with special needs. Her work combines psychological care, behavioral therapy, creativity, and advocacy to support individuals and families navigating emotional and developmental challenges.

In this interview, we speak with Tofunmi Adedire, as part of our Women’s Mental Health series. Through this conversation, we explore the emotional weight many women carry, the pressures they often face silently, and what the journey of healing can truly look like. Our goal is to create space for honest reflection, raise awareness about women’s mental health, and share insights that remind women they are not alone in what they feel or experience.